*A little disclaimer, I use the word ‘manifesting’ loosely. It’s a buzzword and depending on who you ask, the definition changes. Here, I use it to describe the journey of setting an intention, making dua and the process it takes to receive it. It’s not Amazon Prime, there’s an element of trusting Allah’s decree but also preparing your inner world to receive it, upgrading your identity and aligning to that dua in every possible way. Let’s get straight to it!

1) The Vision Comes First

In the masculine world, you need to take consistent action to get from point A to B. Action is supposedly the cure but ‘manifesting’ your duas does not work the same way. The duas that pertain to your heart can’t be controlled through actions alone. You don’t get more love by following a 10 step plan. You don’t create connection by following rules. Healing doesn’t happen on a linear timeline.

If you feel powerless and stuck around your duas, asking what actions you’ll take only amplifies your doubt. Your logical brains goes “Oh see, there really is nothing I can do about it” or “I feel like giving up, what more am I supposed to do?” Your duas will not come to you through actions alone. What a mistake to think that all the responsibility is on you. What a mistake to think that you have to run yourself into the ground to make it happen. You may plant the seed but it is Allah who grows the tree.

Looking back at all my duas that came into fruition, the key was leading with a vision. Be so attuned to your heart’s desires – what it looks like, what it feels like that you naturally gravitate towards it. That Allah puts you in places that brings it about. From the outside, it looks like coincidence but you’ve been planting the seeds long before. In that state of connection, your standards and boundaries change. What you accept, what you pay attention to, what you no longer lovingly tolerate changes.

You get to your dream duas by keeping your heart focused on the end. Hold the vision so deeply that your current reality no longer weighs you down. Hold your duas so close to your heart that you learn the skills needed to navigate your current reality without getting sucked into it.

It will come together beautifully. Your heartfelt duas, your persistence, your aligned action but also in Allah’s timing. If your duas involve other people, changes in their hearts and efforts will come forth. Hold onto that vision. Tap into that feeling daily. Feel it real. And then see which actions you feel pulled towards.

2) Stay True To Your Duas

If you want to marry a man, don’t act like his girlfriend.

If you want more money, don’t give up after the first rejection.

If you want your dream body, get curious if stuffing your body actually feels good.

Stay true to what your heart truly desires – it’s never going to be disobedience to Allah. You’ll never have to give up on yourself or your deen, so that one day you’ll finally get it. You’ll never have to compromise on your worth. Stay true to your duas in your thoughts, feelings and actions.

If you’re asking Allah for love, it doesn’t make sense to be moping around in sadness all day. How is love going to enter a closed off heart? If you’re asking Allah for wealth, it doesn’t make sense to be anxiously looking for it. The energy of desperation often puts you in places that are not in alignment with your heart. In fear, the wrong opportunities can look appealing.

Instead, choose your heart’s desire. Choose to feel loved, worthy and safe today. How you feel is not entirely dependent on your situation. Choose what you want and know that you don’t have to succumb to an identity that you don’t want.

If you don’t want to be the broke friend, don’t make that your identity. The number in your bank account might restrict your choices but it doesn’t have to become your permanent reality. It’s a phase not a condition that you’re stuck with for life.

If you don’t want to be the single aunt floating in the background, don’t identify with it. You can be chic, cool and still know that marriage is written for you any moment now. Trust that your time will come.

If you don’t want to feel lost as a mother, don’t let pressure from society eat you alive. If you think your daily chores and contributions mean nothing, take a look other parents who are actually absent or neglectful. Suddenly, a well kept home feels productive, doesn’t it?

Can you see where this is going? Stay true to your duas in your inner world through your thoughts and feelings. Stay true to your duas in your outer world through your boundaries and actions.

3) Trust in Allah’s Decree

“He said: I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you know not.” (Surah Yusuf: 86)

You can feel disappointed at your life and still acknowledge that Allah knows better for you. That this moment here, this moment in your life is exactly as it needs to be. It can hurt like hell but you still believe that Allah is with you.

Have a vision for your life but throw out all the attachments to it. When you’re attached and codependent to your desires, it puts you in a sticky place. If it comes to you, great!  You’ll feel like you can’t live without it. Your senses will be on alert when you notice any fluctuations to it. And if it doesn’t happen right away? You’ll feel devastated. You’ll feel unworthy, invisible and behind on life.

The good news is attachment isn’t your truth – it’s deeply felt but it’s an illusion.

When you heal your heart, you’ll appreciate your duas for what they are. Your duas will not come to save you. The perfect husband will not make you feel any more secure (longterm) than you do right now. More money does not guarantee more security. Yes, it can temporarily provide relief but it cannot heal your inner wounds. It’s a dazzling bandaid but soon enough the same wounds will bleed again.

A codependency on anyone or anything but Allah will not last. It’ll never be enough.

Feel your emotions and affirm the truth. Complain of your grief and worries to Allah but also affirm the truth, that Allah is with you, that He knows what you cannot see.

4) The Power Of Persistence

All the Prophets and the ones closest to Allah were tested with patience. Sometimes, your deepest duas can also be your greatest test. The thing you want the most can bring up your heaviest wounds. It can be a test to see if you truly trust and surrender to Allah. 

A delay in your duas doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing something wrong. Instead look out for signs that show misalignment.

• Are you losing hope in Allah?
• Have you surrendered this desire?
• Do you feel loved and secure within?
• Does your inner world match what you’re asking Allah for?
• Can you tend to the highs and lows of your heart as you move through this journey?
• Are you actively healing your past wounds/ negative beliefs?
• Are you healing and moving forward instead of going around in circles?

 

How you answer these prompts will indicate that state of your heart. The dominant state of your heart is your point of attraction. There’s a beautiful Hadith Qudsi in which Allah says: “I am as my servant thinks of Me…” (Sahih Bukhari, Muslim)

Be certain that Allah will answer you. You will hear back from Him.

It’s the sweetness of knowing. The sweetness of knowing that Allah is with you. That Allah will show up for you in ways that you could’ve never imagined. That Allah will deliver on His promise. That Allah will take care of you. That there is nothing in this life that could come your way, except that you can handle it. Don’t get caught up in the how/where/who/when but that Allah will give and give abundantly to you.

5) “As If Allah Need Them”

Oh, this is a good one! This mindset shift helps with letting go of negative thoughts and limiting opinions from others. Even if it’s a professional opinion, if it doesn’t work in your favour for your highest good, always challenge it. This is where ‘as if’ comes in. Follow up a negative thought/ opinion with “as if Allah needs them in the first place”.

“…As if Allah needs their approval to make it happen for you”

“…As if He needs time to make it happen when He is the Creator of time”

“…As if Allah needs this to change to make it happen for you”

“…As if it’s difficult for Allah”

It’s a little bit sassy and sarcastic but it works. Anchor your faith in Allah and you won’t be swayed by worldly opinions. Centre your life around worshipping Allah and you won’t be impressed when an expert or professional tells you otherwise. You’re talking to the King of Kings, the Originator of this universe, the One who created all of existence, don’t let anyone talk you out of your duas. Statistics and logistics are great but have you forgotten who created you? This knowing should soften your heart. You’re not holding on for dear life but open, receptive and loving to all the blessings that Allah has in store for you in this moment and the next. For this life and the next. 

P.S. If you’d like further 1-1 support to elevate your duas, heal through blocks that are weighing you down and step into the next level version of you – the woman who feels feminine, light and hopeful. Aligned to her duas and excited for her future, have a look at my current coaching offers here.

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