TikTok started it. Maybe it’s a little too overused by now but I love the concept of experiencing and romanticizing your life. It’s cherishing the day to day moments, showing up for your heart and living with intention. You’re not waiting to feel loved or validated. You embody that. You’re not waiting for something external to feel worthy. You tap into that now.
Whilst you’re asking Allah for your loftiest duas and dreaming up your deepest desires, come back to the knowing that this moment is beautiful too. That this moment holds a special place in your heart too. Some of these are mindset shifts and others more practical steps, let’s begin!
1. Make It A Vibe
As though you’re bringing your Pinterest aesthetic boards to life 😉 Whatever chapter of life you’re in today, make it intentional. Make it beautiful. You’re not just a stay at home mother that’s lost her sense of worth. Or a working woman with a sinking love life.
You could be that glowing mother that’s so in love and devoted to her children whilst nourishing your own wellbeing, taking care of you and gently pursuing your passions as time permits. It’s not the end of you.
You could be that chic working woman building her empire in a wonderfully feminine way whilst feeling loved, pursuing her dreams, creating a life you love and calling in a beautiful marriage. It’s not a waiting period.
You’re not waiting for this period to be over to finally start living.
We often give way to the negative assumptions/ less favourable moments of each chapter of our lives, why not bask in the positives just as much? Why not romanticize how good it can get?
2. Have Something To Look Forward To
When you’re in the thick of it, be it raising young children or stuck in an unfulfilling job, your daily life can begin to feel a little stale and repetitive. As though your energy feels stagnant. When you wake up in the morning, mentally plan something to look forward too. Something that makes your heart sing and adds a little meaning and joy to your day. It could be a simple walk in nature, catching up with a bestie, cooking a new recipe, live with purpose not on autopilot.
3. Cultivate Quiet Time
It’s not the easiest tip but spending some time alone, be it early morning or late at night can ignite that yearning within. I’m not sure how to explain it, when you’re not overwhelmed with a million responsibilities, deadlines and needs to be met, that quiet time awakens your heart. As though you can finally spend some quality time listening to your heart’s needs and working on your dreams.
4. Remember Allah
Too much self-care without remembering Allah begins to feel empty. There’s a need of worshiping, surrendering and connecting to Allah that can’t be found elsewhere. All the kale smoothies, therapy and journaling prompts in the world doesn’t mean much when your heart is longing for it’s Creator. When you can worship Allah and romanticize this worldly life, it’s a win – win situation.
5. Change Your Scenery
No matter how beautiful your home/ surroundings are, staying in the same place for too long can begin to feel dreary. Maybe it’s taking a different route, exploring a new cafe or scenic park, make it a point to switch up your surroundings. If you’re feeling sluggish and lazy, it’s easy to blame yourself for a lack of discipline. Sometimes changing up your surroundings and routine can work wonders for your mood and productivity.
6. Buy Yourself Fresh Flowers
It’s a simple act of self-love. It’s one of the quickest way to uplift your mood and beautify your surroundings.
The Prophet (peace be upon Him) said “No one will enter Paradise who has an atom’s weight of pride in his heart.” A man said “What if a man likes his clothes to look good and his shoes to look good?” He said, “Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. Pride means denying the truth and looking down on people.” (Sahih Muslim)
7. Indulge In A Cooking Book/ Magazine
I love a spiritual healing book but sometimes it can get a little heavy. There’s something to be said about indulging in a cooking book or magazine, where it’s not too serious, lighthearted and relaxes your mind. I find that the self-help world can be very masculine and healing can become really deep and heavy. Every so often, it’s nice to flick through a magazine, stepping away from the chatter in your mind and not being overloaded with information.
8. Make A Smoothie Or Green Juice
There’s just something about drinking a green juice that makes me feel like I have my
shit life together, agreed? 😆 You feel like the most healthiest, glowing version of yourself and that feels amazing. Make it a health ritual you look forward to – use glass jars, organise your fridge, some fancy straws and voila! What I love about juicing/ smoothies is that you can really pack in your vegetables, fruits and superfood powders.
9. Raise Your Vibration: Energy Givers Vs. Energy Drainers
At the heart of romanticizing your life is raising your heart energy. What makes your heart sing? What fills your body with light and joy? What makes you appreciate this life of yours? Become so aware of what drains your energy and what revitalises it. This is a moment to moment practise. Don’t wait until the end of the day to realise that a conversation in the morning set your mood low. Or sugar binge after lunch to finally acknowledge that you’re feeling unsafe in your body. Practise checking in with yourself as you go about your day. I’ve listed a few things that either raise or lower your vibration, what would you add to the list? Let me know in the comments below 🙂
- Over consuming information – opinions, thoughts, images, sounds
- Mindless scrolling on social media
- Getting too involved in worldly issues
- Getting involved in the current public scandal – be it political or celebrity/ influencer culture, there’s always going to be something for people to be mad about that doesn’t involve them in any way
- Excessive worry and fear
- Walking in nature
- A huge, heartfelt dua
- Waking up for tahajud
- Going one extra step in worshiping Allah
- Working out – pilates/ yoga and some sort of cardio
- Hopeful thinking and positive inner conversations
- Doing the inner work