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How To Be An Amazing Women part II

May 8, 2015

This is a 3 part series. You can read part 1 here to learn the first 4 suggestion on your quest to becoming an incredible woman. So let’s begin with tip number 5:

5. Invest In Your Life

How many times have your heard the following scenario?

You have a friend. Lets call her Maryam. She’s studying at university, attending Islamic courses, hanging out with her friends, going to the cinema, all in all living an average, good life. Soon, she realises her time for marriage is coming. Her family discuses proposals with her or she’s looking by herself for the ‘one’. Eventually she comes across a potential partner that seems to ignite her interest. Now guess what happens?

All of a sudden she joins the gym. She works out like a manic, sips on herbal tea all day long, cuts out the carbs and becomes the ‘it’ girl for all things of health and fitness. But it doesn’t stop there. She goes out shopping to buy the most flattering dresses that suit her body shape, she invests in quality lingerie, perfume, nightwear, make-up, skincare because now she needs to look good for somebody. But it doesn’t stop there either. She begins to pursue other passions because she wants her life to sound intriguing to her potential husband. So she takes up sports which she has never touched before like badminton or golf. She expands her knowledge on business, finance and law so that she can have great conversations with him. She becomes this incredible, fascinating woman – all triggered by the realisation that her time for marriage is near.

So the moment she dreamt for as a little girl, has finally arrived. In a few hours, she’ll place her hand into his and walk into a entirely, new home, ready to begin the next chapter of her life. So the first one to two years of her marriage are incredible! She’s smiling all day long, buying new dresses and outfits to surprise the man of her life. She’s cooking up delicious, scrumptious meals whilst letting her glossy, wavy hair flow seamlessly on her shoulders. When her husband comes home, she greets him with the most beautiful smile and gorgeous outfit! He’s mesmerized by her laughter and enchanted by her free spirit. They talk all night about their dreams of bringing up a righteous family, swimming in the turquoise sea ofΒ  Maldives, hiking in the valleys of Morocco and performing Hajj regularly.

But fast-forward to the fourth/fifth year of marriage. As the honeymoon period fizzles out they become less tolerant of each other. With the arrival of their second child, it seems almost impossible for Maryam to get herself together. All those fancy dresses she brought barely fits her any more. In fact they’ve been replaced with these baggy, creased maxi dresses – that are so functional. It’s great – they hide all that excess weight from binging and overeating during her pregnancies. Coupled with the lack of exercise and stress, her health begins to deteriorate. Gone are the days of laughter and joy within her home. Gone are the days of frantically and so innocently running around the house to apply some lipsticks, spray some perfume and let down her hair just before she welcomes her husband home. Gone are her sweet laughter and enchanting spirit.

Now tell me, how many woman do you know that fit into this story? They have time for trashy dramas yet surprisingly no time for exercise. As the years go passed, they loose that wild, innocent, care free girl within them. That crazy girl that would dream of starting big charities whilst softly cuddling her child to sleep. That girl that was obsessed with fashion, health, make-up and now barely goes beyond taking a shower. Tell me, what happened to that girl? Where has she gone?

If you wait for marriage to loose weight, you will put it back on. If your waiting for a guy to kick start your dream life, you will give up soon. Because none of these reasons will sustain you forever. Sure, looking good for your husband is an incredible reason to stay healthy. But when the initial fizz is over and when your truly comfortable with each other, you’ll need a lot more than ‘looking good for my husband’ to get you to the gym and work out like a maniac.

The best reason that you can ever have is to do it for ‘YOU’. Don’t ever, ever, ever let yourself go. Whether your 16 or 60, have the dignity to dress beautifully, brush your hair, put on a little make-up, read a little here and there, visit a new coffee place and keep investing in your life. You are your biggest motivation. Invest in yourself. And don’t ever let yourself go. Preserve your personal pride and dignity.



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  1. Sarah says

    November 22, 2020 at 9:02 pm

    Take care of yourself for the sake of Allah SWT. What better reason can there be then that?
    I feel this article is relatable and lovely but it’s missing something so important.
    Allah Subhana wa ta’ala’s mention.

    Reply
  2. Maria Farid says

    April 15, 2020 at 2:30 am

    I am ashamed of myself now because when i was reading this story it feels like its my story now
    Literally i am taking care of myself just for that reason
    And i knew this that it will not last long because i am a moody person
    But now i am trying to invest on my self love
    Because when i will love my self then inshaALLAH i will do these things just for my own slef
    JazakiALLAH khair sisiter

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      April 27, 2020 at 4:33 pm

      Aww there’s nothing to be ashamed off, it’s okay ?You’re going to pick yourself up and move through it, nothing to feel ashamed off. Life happens.

      BarakAllah fee, you’re going to have an incredible self-love journey inshaAllah xx

      Reply
  3. hanna says

    September 28, 2018 at 7:41 pm

    I am so glad I found this article.

    made me realise so many things! You really need to have the right intentions doing it to make yourself happy x πŸ™‚

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      October 6, 2018 at 3:19 pm

      Aah lovely to hear! Yess intention is key and so powerful xx

      Reply
  4. Foz says

    December 27, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    Agree, I was turning into that women and was feeling down a lot of the time… but gave myself a kick, have joined a gym and have a few other ideas of what I want to do

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 29, 2015 at 11:35 am

      Yaaay! – keep it going πŸ™‚

      Reply
  5. Zainab says

    December 24, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    Yay beautiful motivational post marshallah πŸ™‚

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      Yaayy thank you for stopping by ?

      Reply
  6. Amina says

    December 24, 2015 at 6:11 pm

    Motivation should come from within… only then will it be truly transformational and sustainable.

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Absolutely πŸ™‚

      Reply
  7. Salma says

    December 24, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    Great motivation post !! So right we need to think about ourselves and stay healthy and look better for only yourselve thank you xx

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Thank you for reading Salma ? You, yourself are your biggest motivation πŸ™‚

      Reply
  8. veena says

    December 24, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    Such an amazing post. I feel like taking care of myself more <3

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:34 pm

      Thank you Veena ? Self – care is so worth pursuing, what its does to your mind, body and soul is amazing – let me know how it goes!

      Reply
  9. CreativeKhadija says

    December 24, 2015 at 4:00 pm

    indeed, This is super motivational article dear friend. Thanks for sharing with us!

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:33 pm

      Thank you Khadija for reading and stopping by ?

      Reply
  10. Myda Tahir says

    December 23, 2015 at 9:54 pm

    Great reminder Hafsa,
    really married aunties should also take of them.

    Eat Healthy Stay Healthy πŸ™‚

    Myda Tahir
    mydatahir2025@gmail.com
    http://ummeummah.blogspot.com/

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:33 pm

      hehe yep! completely agree with you there πŸ˜‰

      Reply
  11. asma says

    December 22, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    Such an inspiration <3

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:32 pm

      ????

      Reply
  12. Maryam says

    December 22, 2015 at 11:43 am

    I can completely relate to this article ! I might not look like it but I’ve a lot of weight to lose! always gave up for I don’t know what reason…But I’m motivated now, for myself Insh’Allah I won’t have this problem soon !

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:32 pm

      InshaAllah you won’t! Keep going my darling πŸ™‚ And keep your motivation at the forefront of your mind as much as possible x

      Reply
  13. hena says

    December 21, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    very motivating and yes i can relate in many places!

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:30 pm

      Great! So happy to hear its motivating Hena ?

      Reply
  14. Najmah says

    December 21, 2015 at 12:33 pm

    Mashaa Allah, so inspriing. True! I AM MY BIGGEST MOTIVATION. Thanks for sharing this sis. <3

    Reply
    • Inspired & Fabulous says

      December 25, 2015 at 3:30 pm

      Thank you for reading! You are definitely your own biggest motivation ?

      Reply
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