Waking up at tahajjud and crying your heart out to Allah because you don’t have anyone else to turn to
And even if you do have people to turn to, nobody can replace the warmth and openness you feel with Allah. Sometimes sadness and difficulty brings us closer to Allah than happiness and prosperity. In those moments of sadness and confusion, reach out to Allah and release all your worries and sadness to Him. Tahajjud is the time to speak to Allah without any distractions from the world. Tahajjud is the time to cry profusely, open the wounds that are hurting you and speak to Allah.
Pouring your fears and hopes into dua
Most of my blog posts about the ‘soul + mind’ mention dua because it’s seriously life-changing. It’s the one tool that can radically change the course of your life. When I say dua, I’m not talking about the 2 minute duas that we make after salah, often empty hearted, repeating words that don’t even touch the edge of your heart. When I say dua, I’m talking about the invocations that come from the depth of your heart. The prayers that you are too scared to say out loud – but you do so anyway, trusting Allah. The cries that are so deep within you, that you’re afraid of becoming vulnerable and opening wounds that you thought were healed. I’m taking about duas that shift your entire body chemistry – where every hair on your body is raised out of awe and overwhelm of the magnificence of Allah.
Living freely with no worry
Worry and faith cannot coexist in the same heart at the same time. You can’t be feeling worried and hopeful at the same time. Worry, doubt and fear is a tactic used by shaitan and a thought pattern used by your egoic voice. We all have that voice in our minds that plagues us with fear. “What if it doesn’t happen? What if I lose out?” The key is to not engage with those thoughts – let them pass like a river streaming by. Gently watch the thoughts as an onlooker and the less you engage with them, the less power and control they have over you.
Being okay with both outcomes
Even if you pour your entire heart into dua, cry beyond measure and make numerous dua’s at the most blessed places and times of acceptance – if Allah hasn’t decreed something for you, accept it. Your life could go beyond your wildest dreams or it could go the complete opposite direction with twists and hurdles that you could have never imagined – both ways fully accept the outcome.
No attachment to this worldly life
Linking back to the point above – have no attachment to this life. You could have it all (and if that’s what you want, go for it girlfriend!) but don’t let it consume your heart. Go after this world but don’t let it cloud your mind. Attachment to this materialistic world has nothing to do with your possessions. It has nothing to do with how many designer bags you own or the size of your bank account. But it has everything to do with how much you let those things consume you.
All. my. life. I’ve been bombarded with the questions such as “What’s your 5 year plan? Where do you see yourself in 10 years time? What are you financial projections for the next 15 years?” Here’s the thing with these type of questions – I don’t know where I’ll be at the end of this month, let alone in 15 years time. Whilst I’m all in favour of life planing (with reasonability i.e. monthly goals, yearly goals, 5 year plans, general awareness of your life’s message), anything above a 5 year plan to me is pretty crazy. I had my life all figured out on paper, except that when depression hit – all my glorious, grand plans flushed down the drain and my life took on a whole new direction.
Go with the flow of life (+ work hard)
Trusting Allah doesn’t mean sitting your tush on the sofa and waiting for your dream man in shining armour to save you and miraculously give you a life full of happiness and prosperity. Neither does it mean scrapping your feet in 5 inch heels all day and pulling all nighters for something that was never meant to be destined for you. It’s a tricky balance of going with the flow of life + working ridiculously hard for your dreams + not getting attached to the outcome.